Love is to be the heartbeat of the Christian life. We have also seen that we cannot both love and judge at the same time. We either eat of the tree of life, which is made available to us again in Jesus Christ, or we continue to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. One is a life of freedom, transparency, openness, joy and truth. The other is a life of bondage and emptiness. This second way of trying to get life will drive us to pretend to be something that we are not. We are called to a life of love, but most of us seem to live in a pattern of performance and hiding.
Focus Scripture – Genesis 3:7-8HIDESHOW
7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.
8 Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORD God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the LORD God among the trees of the gardenExtended SummaryHIDESHOW
We have seen that love is to be the heartbeat of the Christian life. We have also seen that we cannot both love and judge at the same time. We either eat of the tree of life, which is made available to us again in Jesus Christ, or we continue to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. One is a life of freedom, transparency, openness, joy and truth. The other is a life of bondage and emptiness. This second way of trying to get life will drive us to pretend to be something that we are not and to hide what we think will threaten our status with others. We are called to a life of love, but most of us seem to live in a pattern of performance and hiding. Rather than continue engaging in our constant “commentary on the world,” that is, a life of judgment we can be free of this and remember this important truth:
If you aren’t invited by a person to DO something to help them grow, you don’t need to hold any opinion about the person other than God’s opinion: they have unsurpassable worth as a person for whom Christ died. [This advice is biblical: see Titus 3:2, James 4:11-12, Eph. 5:2, Col. 3:14, 1 Pet. 4:8.]
When we believe the lies (discussed earlier in the series) about who God is and who we are, we take God out of the center of our existence and put ourselves there. But we cannot survive on this strategy, we need a source that is greater than ourselves to sustain us. We know we are not full, so we seek nourishment, sustenance from those around us. We assess the situation and try to find a way to get life from our environment and those we find there. We create a role for ourselves, we perform that role and we hide everything that conflicts with that role. This is what is referred to as “Life in the Flesh.” It is a game of performing and hiding. Greg used the example of a preacher who, rather than getting their identity and self-worth from Christ, tries to sustain themselves on the approval of the congregation. This preacher knows that the people want a symbol of holiness so he makes this his role. He then hides everything about himself that conflicts with the perception of “holiness” that the people have. Of course the preacher cannot truly be perfect and holy on his own strength. He needs God. But he has made the congregation “god” and his life a performance before them. Everything that conflicts with that performance must be hidden. Rather than love and serve the congregation out of a fullness rooted in his identity in Christ, this preacher has bought the lies, “God cannot be trusted” and “I can get life on my own.” This is the road to death which is so powerfully illustrated in Gen. 3:7-8 where Adam and Eve began providing for themselves (sewing leaves for covering which was not needed prior to their new “knowledge”) and hiding what they themselves have passed judgment on (their nakedness).
There are three things we need to be aware of with regard to this game of “living in the flesh”:
1. Trying to get life from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil means that we will live our lives attempting to “get the good” and “avoid the evil.” We pick some idol in the world and call it our “good” and judge all things that oppose it as “evil.”
2. Living in the flesh blocks love. We cannot get love or give love to someone we are performing for or hiding from.
3. Living in the flesh blocks healing. Rather than getting life from Christ, casting all our cares on him, looking to Christ for our hope and not to ourselves, we hide everything that Christ came to free us from. We facilitate our own death by refusing to allow our sins, wounds and every weakness to Christ for healing. As Greg said, “A wound that is concealed is a wound that can never be healed.”
Practical Applications (homework)HIDESHOW
- Be outrageously loving and real. Don’t hide because you fear judgment. As above, get life from Christ so that nothing holds you back from being real. If you are getting your life from Christ, being real will look like outrageous love! As you begin to live in this, you will notice that your fear of judgment will fade. Rather than thinking that you have to look perfect, or “above reproach” in order to impress nonbelievers for the sake of Christ, consider simply being genuine and nonjudgmental. Establish the reputation that Christians are radial lovers! Let the love of God in you draw them the Source.
- Grow in an “incarnational” community. We all need a small group of people in our lives in which we receive and express the love of God to one another as we live life together. A place where we can be open and honest with each other and practice the teachings of the New Testament together as they were intended. Speaking the truth, confessing sin, holding each other accountable, and the many “one anothers” apply in small groups where people have given each other permission to speak into each other’s lives. If you are not currently in a small group, we strongly encourage you to join one.
- Come out of hiding. The only thing that really matters is reality. Face it, confront it, and be willing to deal with it openly and honestly. As you get life from Christ, bring things out of hiding as the Lord leads you toward healing and fullness. This is not a call to air out your dirty laundry every where you go, but rather to encourage you to move in the direction of confession and openness about sins that God is calling you to deal with. Your small group should be the place to do this.
Reflection QuestionsHIDESHOW
- Why do you think living “in the flesh” blocks healing? Give some specific examples of how this might work out in a person’s life. Feel free to make up a fictitious character to illustrate the point.
- Do you think that the problem of “living in the flesh” is rare or common in the world? How about in the church? How about in our community?
- How do you feel about the central point being made here: that judgment is not our role?
- Try to imagine together what a community might look like when it is truly free from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. What might that look like? Make some attempts to describe it together.