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Let Love Lead

• Bruxy Cavey

How can love lead in our theology, relationships, and evangelism? Bruxy reflects back on Greg’s latest series and challenges us to take the next step in living a life of love.

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In our culture, love is often misunderstood. Love is a feeling, which is only understood when we fall in love. It bubbles up from the heart, and isn’t something that can easily be explained. And oftentimes we act on our emotions. When we are angry, we like to express that anger. When we are happy, we like to dance around and smile more. When we are sad, we mope and don’t feel any energy towards others. We are an emotion-controlled society.

Emotions are not bad. We should listen to our emotions and use them to help us choose the correct course. But we shouldn’t just react off our emotions. We must take the next step of using our emotions, intellect, and will to make the right choice. We cannot command our emotions, but we can command our choices.

God calls us to love because God is love. This seems difficult, because how can a person feel love all the time? This is where choice comes in. We can choose love regardless of how we feel. Jesus wasn’t feeling happy-go-lucky when he was dying on the cross, but he did choose love.

Our theology should be led by love. Whenever we think and study God, we should always view God as love. This means that we don’t say God is justice and love, but rather, we say that God is love and loves through justice. In a lot of theology, God’s attributes are given equal weight to God’s love, instead of being interpreted through God’s love. Whenever we encounter a picture of God that doesn’t look loving, we need to question that picture against the love that is portrayed on Calvary.

Our relationships should be led by love. It is easy to let emotions lead us in our relationships. If we are offended or hurt by someone, we tend to treat them in kind. If we are treated well by someone, we return it with goodwill. But Jesus calls us to love everyone, including those who would persecute us. And the only way to do this is to choose to love, and not let our emotions make the choice for us.

Letting love lead is the greatest commandment that we receive from Jesus. It is also one of the most difficult. Commanding our choices is essential to loving others, and we shouldn’t let our emotions decide our choices. They can play a part and give us information on a situation, but we should always reflect what our intellect and faith tell us to do as well. In this way, we can choose to clothe ourselves in love.

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Topics: Love, Marriage, Relationships

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Focus Scripture:

  • 2 Corinthians 5:14-15

    For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again.

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3 thoughts on “Let Love Lead

  1. Morgan says:

    Awesome message!!

  2. Peter says:

    Yes Bruxy, I think you achieved your aim with this message… much so that I would like to see Greg write “The Myth of Love”, that would encapsulate and expand on the points both you and he make (although some is contained in Greg’s other books (esp “Repenting of Religion”) but not as tightly focused on the issues at hand).

    We were created in the image of God…..with the capacity to express His love which was effectively lost at the fall and replaced by a narcissistic or self love, and not for others. So in society today we see the outcome of this ‘love’ at so many levels….like graffiti vandals, it is a stain on God’s creation with people living such dysfunctional lives plagued by a multitude of unnatural addictions, idolatries and relationships……while all the time being deceived into thinking that this is ‘normal’ living. This, in turn, becomes reflected locally, nationally and at international levels where crime, strife and wars are an inevitable consequence.

    However, within all this social squalor, we find our true Father, Creator and King expressing His love to us in such an unimaginable way that the outcome for us is truly breathtaking. How could all but the impenitent refuse to be transfused and transformed by His salvific love, to return us to a path of new birth into the Kingdom of the Son….and become the witness both to God’s family, and to the world that we are His children.

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